Harmonizing the Holidays: A Guide to Successful Timesharing for Divorced Parents in Florida

By: Christina M. O’Brien, Esq.

Navigating the holiday season as divorced parents requires a delicate balance, and with thoughtful consideration, it’s possible to create meaningful experiences for your children. As a family law attorney and Florida Supreme Court certified family mediator with a passion for ensuring peaceful resolutions, I understand the importance of effective communication and cooperation. Let’s explore some practical tips.

• Communication is key. Start early discussions with your ex-spouse about holiday plans. Be open about your expectations, and listen to theirs. This can help avoid last-minute stress and ensure everyone is on the same page.
• Be flexible and consider activities or events that align with both parents’ schedules. Flexibility can make the experience more enjoyable for everyone involved.
• Embrace the chance to establish new traditions. Whether it’s a day at the beach, attending local holiday events, or cooking a special meal together, creating new traditions can help your children adjust to the changing dynamics.
• Coordinate gift-giving to avoid duplication and ensure your children receive thoughtful presents from both parents. This can also prevent potential conflicts and allow your children to feel the love from both sides.
• If your children are old enough, involve them in the decision-making process. Consider their wishes and try to accommodate them as much as possible. This can empower them and make them feel valued.
• If travel is involved, plan accordingly. Ensure that transportation arrangements are clear, and consider the best interests of the children when deciding on travel plans.
• If feasible, involve extended family members in the holiday celebrations. This can provide additional support for you and create a broader sense of family for your children.
• Having a detailed schedule can help manage expectations. Outline the timesharing plan, including drop-off and pick-up times. Having a clear plan can minimize confusion and reduce potential conflicts.
• It’s not just about the time spent but the quality of that time. Focus on creating memorable moments during the holiday season rather than solely on the duration of each parent’s timesharing.

Bottom Line

Remember, the key is to approach timesharing with a spirit of cooperation and a focus on what’s best for your children. By keeping lines of communication open and being flexible, you can create a positive holiday experience for your family.

If disagreements persist, consider seeking the assistance of a mediator or legal professional to facilitate discussions and find solutions that work for both parties. This can help ensure a peaceful holiday season for everyone. If you should need assistance, I may be reached at christina.obrien@henlaw.com.